Category Archives: Relationships

How to Tell When Someone Likes You

You can tell a lot about a person—what they’re thinking and feeling—by studying their body language. This is especially true when it comes to recognizing whether someone is attracted to you or not.

When someone is attracted to you, their body will start to show it in ways they probably aren’t even aware of. In fact, their body might start showing their interest before they are consciously aware of their attraction to you.

How can you tell if someone is interested in you? Here are some signs to look for.

Like Looking In a Mirror

There’s some truth to the saying that like attracts like. We are often attracted to people who are similar to us in some way, whether they like the same sports, have the same worldview, or share the same occupation. And your subconscious knows this too.

When someone is attracted to you, they might start to mirror your actions. If you push a strand of hair behind you ear, they’ll push a strand of hair behind their ear. If you tap your finger on your glass, they’ll tap a finger on their glass. It’s their subconscious mind’s way of saying, “See, I’m just like you, so you should like me back.”

Can’t Look Away

On average, a person is comfortable making eye contact with you for about three seconds. After that, they’ll feel compelled to glance away, at least for a moment. However, when someone’s interested in you romantically, they’ll tend to make eye contact with you for longer than average.

Why? First, it is a form of contact. If your relationship is at a stage where too much physical contact might be a bit awkward, eye contact is the next best thing. If they can’t touch you physically, at least they can “touch you” with their eyes.

Maintaining eye contact with you is also their subconscious way of letting you know they’re interested. After all, a person staring at you often means they like what they see.

Close To You

When someone is attracted to you, they’ll want to get as close to you as possible. For example, they might lean towards you a little more than seems normal. Not only does this allow them to get closer to you physically, it also gets your attention.

Someone who’s attracted to you will take any opportunity to sit or stand close. And if they can do it in a way that causes your shoulders or hips to touch, even better.

They also won’t want anything to come between you. For example, if they’re carrying a grocery bag when you approach them, they might rest the bag on their hip or set it on the ground so that it’s out of the way.

While what a person says is certainly important, the real clue to what’s on their mind is often in their body language. And if someone mimics your actions, tries to maintain prolonged eye contact, or takes any excuse to get closer to you physically, there is a very good chance they’re attracted to you.

And if you’reattracted to them, knowing they return your feelings can save a lot of time, and make the beginning of your relationship a lot less bumpy.

Hot Dating Tips for Over 40 Singles

Being over 40 does not mean spending the rest of your life alone. So you are not a young teen driven by hormones and spending most of your waking life worrying about pimples, what you are wearing, and that extra 5 pounds you put on. At the same time it does not exclude you from finding the love of your life or even just engaging in a bit of heart thumping romance. Because you are in your 40s dating can in fact be a lot more fun, once you get over the fear and anxiety that can be an issue when you enter the 40′s dating scene.

Overcoming Obstacles

Before you think about who you might like to date, or even where you will find over 40 singles, you will need to consider any obstacles that might get in your way of finding the perfect match. As a mature adult you may be entering the dating scene after being out of it for a number of years. You may have been in a long term relationship, lost someone, or suffered other losses. Many people find themselves afraid to love again, totally out of touch with how to date, or have no clue where to look or who to look for.

Sometimes the best place to start is simply to connect with other people without any expectation of an outcome. Meeting other people as a new single is different than when you were married and certainly different from when you were a young single person. Your expectations have changed and what you are searching for in an ideal mate will be vastly different from what you searched for as a young adult. Getting used to socializing and choosing those who will be a part of your circle will prepare you for finding someone that has the potential to be your life partner.

Keep Expectations Open and Realistic

It can be hard to get close to someone for a lot of reasons, past losses and hurts is only part of the picture. If you are looking for someone to fill a hole in your life that has been left gaping, you may find that a difficult need to fill. You are not looking for a replacement for what you lost, rather a new traveling companion for the next phase of your life.

While it is acceptable to have expectations in a relationship, keep in mind that what you are searching for now, is different than what you would have been looking for in your 20s. Chances are good you have raised your family, or made the decision not to have one. You are older, have matured, and have different goals and desires for this phase of your life. Now you are looking for a partner to move on with you to the next step in life. This is the person you might travel with, take into social situations, and that you hope to retire with. Finding someone that can be your companion and best friend takes on a completely different perspective than looking for someone to raise a family with.

Find the Right Place to Search

Most over 40 singles are stalled by the one single biggest problem they all seem to face. Where to look for someone to date. When we are in our 40s we all have careers, lived a lifetime, know who we are and what we want. Picking up a random date at the bar is no longer acceptable and usually ends in disaster. Relationships seem to be deeper and more intimate so finding someone that you can talk to, and with whom you share similar interests become the priority over that extra 10 pounds most of us have put on.

Since the majority of us either cannot or do not want to date those we work with, it can leave us in a quandary as to where to find suitable candidates for romance and friendship. Online dating is rapidly becoming a popular option for people of all ages, but for those over 40 the advantages are undeniable. You not only have an opportunity to view a profile of your potential match before you go out on a date, you can spend time chatting first as well. This is the perfect time to see if there is a synergy between you that could go farther than a casual chat.

Forty Plus Singles offers you the perfect place to find that perfect match you are looking for. You will have an opportunity to meet people that are in the same place in life as you are, like the same things, and give you the opportunity to meet them if things go right.

Using an online dating service can be scary, because it means you are taking action and choosing not to be alone any longer. The right dating service can bring you into close contact with that perfect someone that fits most if not all of your dreams for the perfect mate.

Go have a look at the Forty Plus Singles site and search for free to see if they have a match for you. If the results looks good then you can decide whether you’d like to join or not.

3 Ways to Spot a Liar

Some people just aren’t good at lying, so you can tell pretty easily when they aren’t being honest with you. They stutter and stammer, and generally give themselves away the minute they start to say anything that isn’t absolutely true.

But what about good liars, people who can tell a lie without batting an eye or breaking a sweat? It can be hard to tell when they aren’t being honest. Hard, but not impossible.

Even good liars sometimes give themselves away. You just have to know what to look for.

Here are some ways to tell when someone is lying to you.

They Pause to Gather Their Thoughts

Even good liars need a minute to come up with a good lie, especially if you’ve put them on the spot. So if someone doesn’t answer your question immediately, and even seem to freeze for a moment or two before they start to talk, it’s possible they feverishly trying to think of something to tell you besides the truth.

Another stalling tactic is asking you to repeat your question, which gives the liar a few extra seconds to think of something. Or they might even repeat the question themselves. For example, if you ask, “Where were you Friday night?” someone who doesn’t want to tell you where they actually were might say, “Where was I Friday night?” while they try to come up with anything to tell you but the truth.

They Explain Too Much…or Too Little

Many believe that someone who is “making stuff up,” will over embellish their stories, going into great but unnecessary detail. But people who are telling a fabricated story are actually more likely to give few details, and to be very vague in general. However, if they have to tell their story more than once, the story will often get more detailed with each retelling as they have time to fill in the blanks.

They Look To the Left

Many people think that a person not looking them in the eye means they’re lying. But it could just mean they are shy or distracted.

A better hint is to look at the way a person’s eyes move when they’re talking. According to the science of Visual Accessing Cues, the direction a person’s eyes move in tells you which part of the brain they are accessing.

Someone who looks to the right is probably accessing a memory of something that actually happened, so it’s likely they are telling the truth.

Someone who looks to the left is probably accessing the creative part of the brain, the part we use when we are inventing or creating things, like stories. And lies.

However, this only works with people who are right handed. Someone who’s left-handed will do the opposite. So they’ll look to the left when they’re remembering something, and to the right when they’re making something up.

Luckily you can tell if a total stranger is right or left-handed with a little observation.

Whether you’re dealing with your kids, a co-worker, or someone you’ve just met, being able to spot a lie is a valuable skill. Of course, these tells aren’t surefire. There are always exceptions. But knowing what to look for will give you a huge advantage when you’re trying to figure out who you can trust…and who you can’t.